Sunday, September 30, 2007

Being cheated

"防人之心不可无"
Translated to be :"No one can be trusted"

Have you been cheated before?

People can be cheated in many ways - money, feelings, service, sex, or anything else. In TV serials (or real life) where there is a love polygon (almost to be considered as a circle), they cheat around. Old people get cheated with apples and oranges. Teachers get cheating students. Friends cheat each other, for fun or for ownself. Cheating, and being cheated, is everyday, everywhere, everytime, and everyone. I wouldn't believe no one has cheated or no one hasn't ever been cheated.

We cannot stop others from cheating, but we can prevent ourselves from being cheated. Trust, is the key. Do you trust everyone? No you don't. No one does. There are different levels of trust. Absolute trust, partial trust, or totally no trust at all. How many friends to you trust absolutely? How many friends do you tell everything to? For me, its only one. The more people you give trust to, the more vulnerable you are to being cheated.

How many people do you trust? That is not important. What is important is how many people do you not trust at all? Well, nobody likes to not trust someone, but we have to do it. There is nothing we can to about it. Some poeple are just ment to not be trusted. They cannot be trusted and must not be trusted. Trust them, and get cheated.

When you tell a secret to a friend, and he promised to not tell others, but went around to spread it like peanut butter, kaya, butter, jam... ... (alright, you got it already). Even this "simple" act is an act of cheating on friends. You trusted them, but it was misplaced. Unlucky. That is all that you can say. Prevention? Trust no one.

Would you give 100% trust in a relationship? In theory, you should. Idealy, you should. To have a happy relationship, you should. But, will you? Can you? I wouldn't. Maybe 99.999999999999... ..., but not 100. Just can't. You can't be sure when your other half will bluff you on (an answer for a question you are stuck on) or (when he/she gives you a surprise even though you asked what he/she is up to). Maybe that will be the only times they would not be telling the truth, but that is still equivilent to being cheated. What I am trying to say here is that, big or small, never totally trust them.

Trust.

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