Monday, September 17, 2007

Secrets

"世间无能守之秘"
Translated to be:"No secrets in this world can be kept"

Everyone has secrets. Everyone. They are kept for a number of possible reasons:
  • protecting oneself from harm,
  • protecting others from harm,
  • keeping your views unknown,
  • preventing a disaster,
  • or simply just for the fun of it.
But secrets will eventually not be secrets. The harder you try to keep them, the easier they will be exposed. Secrets are meant to be shared anyway.

Nobody can keep a secret. Secrets are hard to keep anyway. Friends drill and dig you for the secret. You blurt it out when you are drunk. Your trusted friend betray you by spreading them. You need this secret to prove your innocence. And of all, you get sick from keeping the secret(literally, or non literally).

And when the secret is exposed, you blame yourself(or others) for leaking them. You wish you could turn back time and continue keeping it. Whats done is done. It is not a secret anymore. However, if you were to settle down and think for a minute, exposed secrets are not that bad after all. You get the relief of keeping a secret. You can discuss it openly and come to a conclusion that you could never think of. Your friends can help you in any difficulties you encounter. Continue thinking and you can come up with a thousand of reasons why secrets are supposed to be made known.

Self denial? Absolutely not. To a certain extend, yes, they relief your pain for your loss of secret. But these reasons are not lies you tell yourself. They are not for self denial. These are actual benefits that can't be compared to benefits of keeping a secret in anyway. That, is how it should be.

Sometimes, outcomes of revealing a secret can be unexpected. Your crush may be having a crush on you too(what everyone hopes for), your friends ostracise you(if so, they are not fit to be your friend anyway), your parents disown you(till then, you may start to debate if your parents are really your parents), or worse of all, someone gets jailed or dies over this secret(but still, it shouldn't be kept). It will reveal how true your friends are, who are the supportive ones, and who are those that should be shunned. Painful as may be, reality. But definitely worth the truth you get.

So go ahead, tell your friends what ugly things you did, tell your crush how much you feel about them, and best of all, tell me all your secrets(evil laugh).

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